Gaming,relationships, stories, and sociology

[Buster's Uncle]

That's because they're so much alike...

[Rusty Edge]

 

More likely because I spoke of Rusty Edge in the third person.


My virtual sociopath is an attorney. I guess that's a common career path for them. I don't need that kind of stress, expense, and waste of time. I prefer to stay beyond his radar.


I've attempted the opposites attract type of relationship before, lots of times, but it didn't fly.
I'll stick to my conflict-free relationship, even though it means no passionate make-ups.

Well for that matter, my parents, and my maternal grandparents had the same type of compatible relationship as me.

[Buster's Uncle]

...When I first joined the community lo, those five years ago, I thought the online anonymity stuff was bull and a shield for misbehaving cowardly dinks - that was two stalkers back, now...

[JarlWolf]

There is a saying old dogs can't learn new tricks, but they do.

This thread had taught me some things in some regards, and it has shown me that I am glad I don't have many more years of living anymore and that I haven't made any online "enemies." I have enough people in real life I've scorned and ruined and want me and those who are related to me in any way shape or form dead- I am just glad the hatred of those people that I have wronged, angered or what have you are at my stage of life for the most part or incapable of doling out their grievances against me.

And I am glad that the hatred and guilt, crime and every sin I have committed is going to die with me, that my grandchildren and my future descendants won't have to pay for my crimes. That I don't have enough an online legacy to attract more hatred amongst people, nor did I ever anger anyone enough to do so.


Because you folks speak of these online poltergeists and sociopaths like I talk about the ghosts and guilty charges of my past and that scares me.

[Geo]

Its more a thing of this era, Jarlwolf. Most of us have never (and hopefully will never) have to go through the things happened to your generation.

[Green1]

Someone that used to be a good friend of mine before life changed direction and I lost track of him had an interesting take on "stalkers".

"We never get the stalkers we want.

At my cousin's urging and how he knows I like sociology and psychology books, he had me read Gavin De Becker's The Gift of Fear. De Becker was a sociologist, private investigator, and martial artist who worked with celebrities who had stalker issues and prevention of crimes like rape, robbery, etc. He had the same interesting take on stalkers my old buddy had and I have now.

I will give you an example. Before I got in my last relationship, I would often ride my bike by the girl's house just to see who was there and if she was actually home. I did not stop, nor did I announce I was going there. Nor did I have any particular interest in controlling this person nor obsess over this person, though I did want to tap that to be honest. I just wanted an idea of her habits and any possible unpleasantness like rival suitors, etc. Is that stalking? Some would say yes. But, we ended up hitting it off and were in a relationship for 3 years. So, it was NOT stalking. See my point.

See what I am getting at? It is only stalking if the person you are checking on despises you for reasons real or imagined. Now, I guess another difference is  if I saw even the first hint of her being disgusted towards me or not seeming the least bit interested, I would have forgotten about her and continued with more important stuff. I have better things to do to my mind than push myself towards someone disgusted by me or hates me. You seldom change folks minds that have that in them. I guess a "true stalker" would have either been unable to read that, not cared, or wanted malice towards that person for "rejecting" them.

If that attorney happened to be a hawt chick that had redeeming qualities but just went after Rusty because she was aggressive and knew what she wanted, that would be initiative, not stalking if Rusty agreed. Mental illness or sociopathy notwithstanding.

We never get the stalkers we want. It is only stalking if one does not wish for contact or the other has bad intentions.

I for one hope I get stalked by a rich sugar momma who will let me play video games in my underwear all day and I do not have to work:D Bonus points if she does yoga and drinks a brew every now and then and does not believe in domestic violence

[Buster's Uncle]

I don't believe anyone who claims to have never ridden their bike past the girl's house.

[Green1]

@Jarl

It may also have to do with the fact no sane person would want to tangle with you. No matter how much that person had wronged me, I would be given pause before I messed with an armed, grizzled Soviet era war vet out in the boondocks of Russia on his home turf.

Some things are just not worth the issues.