Buncle's Goals and why I give the advice I give to men who share this

[Metaliturtle]

I want to do the sex w/ attractive wimminz, for all of the topic of this thread...

Trying not to be out of context here first of all.   I responded basically saying become more attractive and the 3 most common ways men become more attractive are:

1.  Make more money

2.  Improve your physique

3.  Gain Prestige

Other people who have been posed with this question will refer to confidence, which is important but I hold to a belief that it comes from small wins turning to bigger wins.  Feel free in this thread to discuss these things as they relate to Buncle's stated goal.

I hope you feel comfortable disagreeing with me (some definitely will).  Statements like "it's not about how much he makes" "looks don't matter" or "as long as we're together I don't care if we're homeless." All are things I've heard people who didn't have to worry about money, were above average looking, and were definitely not likely to become homeless any time soon.  They're easy to say and they are outright lies (although the people saying them may believe it as they say it).

So to break it down further into the whys:

Why Money? - Money, the ability to generate it, grow it, maintain it, is how the majority of people in our country sustain life.  This is the means for food, shelter, water, clothing, comfort, etc.  Thus I've determined this in a man to be a key driver of attraction.  You get enough money, you will have "attractive wimminz" to "do the sex" with.

Why Physique? - Evolution.  Someone seeking a partner will seek the most appealing one that they can find because of the instinctual desire to spread our genes.  It's a winning strategy long-term for a species to insure the best genetics for the future.  Humans do have an environmental portion that can impact this, especially if you learn to see certain traits as ugly, or undesirable. 

Prestige-  If you're going to be with someone and you're one of the "attractive wimminz" are you going to go with the guy brooding in the corner, or the guy who has the other guys following them around?  The top dog gets first choice in nature, and the strange thing with humans is we tend to not care how or why someone is the top dog, just that they are.  This is what I mean by prestige. 


Happy to break it down more with serious discussion as to the hows.

[Buster's Uncle]

Dood, I hates that title.  I was expressing an idle wish, not a goal.

You underrate confidence.  It's the factor that stops me.  You saw the renfair pics I posted in the catcalls thread, and what I said about technique in that artificial context.  I'm neither ugly, nor utterly lacking game/some weird charisma - but as lonely as I've mostly been in my time, I was just never all that goal-oriented, and mixing in a little appropriate aggression just was never in me IRL.

[Rusty Edge]

Even though I married well, she chose me.  She made about 10X what I did. So the normal rules may not apply. I suspect my confidence accounted for more than my bank balance. Whenever I initiated a romantic pursuit with someone, they normally dodged me. I was always great with parents, but women? An eternal mystery!

I'm sure that the Supa Newb knows way more about this than I do. I have suspected as much as long as I have been acquainted with him.

[Unorthodox]

hEt says women can get that stuff on their own, and it's about finding a guy interested in more than just having sex with wimminz. 

We met shortly after one of the predominant religiousness types of Utah berated her for being uber evil, marking up some of the predominant religiousity materials to teenagers with the areas she was totally failing in.  I reacted rather as you might expect from me, thus she started hanging out with TEH EVIL GUY YOU DON'T MESS WITH (I had a rep, but was getting things under control). 

[Buster's Uncle]

I certainly hope no one mistakes an idle thought I expressed humorously for the be-all and end-all of my "goals" w/ regard to teh wimminz.

I used to have a terrible problem with falling for them and getting my heart broken.  Relaxing about THAT actually substantially improved my romantic opportunities before I went all hermit on the world.

[Metaliturtle]

UnO's a perfect example of prestige being a driving force, realize it's not success, just something that makes you better than the rest, having everyone say no is a way to get extra attention.

In Rusty's case it's likely physique if she "chose" him. 

[Buster's Uncle]

He's a lovely man.

So I need to be a notorious local devil worshipper to get some?

[Metaliturtle]

nah, you just gotta be the best man for her, whoever she is.

Easiest way to do that is focus on being the best YOU, make your plan, work toward it, and IF a woman comes along who you see running beside you towards the same goal, by all means, combine efforts.

[Buster's Uncle]

Poo.  I'm already doing that.

-Just not getting the URL out there...

[Rusty Edge]

In Rusty's case it's likely physique if she "chose" him.

Well, we met on a forum like this one, without photos. She probably took an interest in my poetry or personality or brains or something before I could impress her with my same weight as high school graduation 40 something physique.

I was on the rebound at the time and wanted to go hermit, I wasn't particularly perceptive.

[Unorthodox]

So I need to be a notorious local devil worshipper

No such thing as bad press?

[Geo]

I was on the rebound at the time and wanted to go hermit, I wasn't particularly perceptive.

Story of my life!

[Rusty Edge]

I was on the rebound at the time and wanted to go hermit, I wasn't particularly perceptive.

Story of my life!

Well, I hope it turns out as happily for you as it did for me.

[Buster's Uncle]

Ditto.

That librarian is out there, Geo; you just got to get her to look at the stars with you and she's either yours or not the one you're looking for.  My wimminz think you're a catch for some lucky girl, and I'm not exaggerating.